My daughters have a lot of hair. When we are out and about people always stop to comment on their hair. Often those same people will ask me how I get rid ofhair tangles or just give me tips on what works for them. A typical comment will be: "Your daughters have beautiful hair. Do you have problems with tangled hair? I found a great product..." I had gotten pretty desperate in this department so I would usually run out and buy whatever was suggested. I found those products rarely worked but I have found some that absolutely work on tangled hair. I share them with you here along with a recipe for DIY hair detangler. Hopefully this makes mornings easier for you. If you are looking for more morning tips check out how to create a stress free morning routine.
Get Rid of Hair Tangles
I counted 7 items under our sink that I bought in the hopes of solving our hair tangling problem. I only use a few on these on a daily basis and the rest collect dust. Some of these products might work great for you but we did not have success with all of them. So here is my guide to getting rid of tangled hair for good.
Below are my main go-to hair detanglers (Original Sprout Miracle Dentangler, Zerran Equilizer Leave in Conditioner, Suave Kids Detangler and a Goody Ouchless Cushion Brush). Read on to find out how we get rid of hair tangles with these products as well as how to make your own hair detangler.
The Zerran Equalizer Conditioner (large green bottle above) is my first line of defense to get rid of hair tangles. It is a leave in conditioner and detangler that I use in my girls' hair before they get out of the bath. A woman at the gym told me about this when she saw me with my girls. She said that she also put some in her daughter's dry hair each day to help more with tangles. I tried that and just felt like the hair was getting weighed down with too much product. So I just use it after I wash their hair. What a difference it makes! We had just been using normal conditioner that you wash out, but it didn't make a difference. Zerran Equalizer can be pricey, but it lasts a long time. You don't need a lot at all.
In my experience, certain hair types are more prone to serious tangles. I happen to have girls who all have different hair types.
Thick & Straight
My youngest has thick, straight hair which tends to resist much tangling. She does get a few small tangles each morning so I use Suave Detangler Spray for Kids which you can find at any super market or drug store for under $3. This or the homemade detangler I will mention later and a good brush are all you really need to tame those tangles. Lucky you!
Thick & Curly
This kind of hair looks overwhelming but if properly managed, it can be easy to maintain. I use the same super market or homemade dentangler and it works fine. If you still have had a hard time with your child's curly hair, follow my advice for Fine and Wavy hair.
Fine & Wavy
In my experience, this is the type of hair that tangles most. Surprised? I was. It used to seem that even after I just combed it, my daughter could shake her head and it would be all tangled again. It was like it had a mind of it's own. I was at my wits end and spending tons of time each morning brushing through this kind of hair.
I now use the Original Sprout Miracle Detangler for the tough tangles. At around $20, it is pricier than what you'd buy at the supermarket, but it really gets rid of hair tangles. When I first got it I was skeptical because of the price, so I tried the cheaper hair detangler on my daughter and when I still couldn't get out certain hair tangles, I sprayed the Miracle Dentangler on it. The brush slid right through the tangles. Amazing! I've been using it daily on my daughter with fine and wavy hair since January 1st, and we haven't even used ¼ of the bottle. A little goes a long way so don't let the price deter you.My daughter's hair before the Miracle Detangler. No brush is getting through there!
When you spray on the Miracle Detangler, it comes out gloppy. It will look like you sneezed on your kid. This is normal. Rub it into the hair with your fingers.
Brush through with your Goody Ouchless brush and check out the results. Is she ready for a shampoo commercial or what?
Hair Detangler Recipe
Of course, if your child doesn't have very bad knots in their hair you can always make your own hair detangler which should get the job done. Get a spray bottle (you can find one for $1 at the dollar store or Target) and add 2 tablespoons of your favorite conditioner.
After you have added the conditioner, fill up the rest of the bottle with warm water and shake it up until the conditioner is totally mixed with the water. That's all it takes. I make sure to shake mine up before each use.
Whether you buy hair detangler or make your own, you will need the right brush and the right brushing technique to effectively remove tangles and make the experience painless for your child. I was using a normal plastic brush on my kids hair for the longest time until someone at the grocery store of all places, recommended I try the Goody Ouchless Cushion Styling Hair Brush. You have to like a brush that has "ouchless" in it's name. The brush doesn't pull or snarl hair like others I have tried.
Okay, so you chose you detangler and brush but you still need to brush your child's hair the right way. My kids never complain or fuss when I brush their hair and I believe it's because of my pain free brushing technique. You want to grab a section of your child's hair and hold it tightly in your hand. Make sure to hold the hair close to the scalp. Then you can brush the remainder of the hair without hurting them if you come across a tangle.
My final tip to get rid of hair tangles is to brush your child's hair every night before they go to bed. This is really a must if your child suffers from tangled hair. The hair will tangle a bit while they sleep, but it will be much harder to comb through in the morning if you don't comb it the night before.
Wishing you less tangles and tears in the mornings.
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Cranberry Morning
What an interesting post! I remember brushing my daughter's long, curly hair, always starting from the very bottom, brushing that out, then moving up a couple inches. Often I would braid it before she went to bed to avoid tangles in the morning. 🙂 Your daughters have beautiful hair.
Amy Wadlington
I LOVE Original Sprout Miracle Detangler! My stylist said to mix it with one part detangler and 3 parts water in a separate spray bottle. Now a bottle of Original Sprout will last about 9-12 months with two daughters with very long hair.
kristine
this is great! thank you!! my daughter saw the infomercial for the mercier hairbrush or something and whenever i brush her hair she screams, "did you order the brush from tv yet????" i think i'm going to start with the goody ouchless!!! 🙂
Anonymous
I'm a grown-up with *fine and wavy* hair, and I can totally relate to your fine-and-wavy daughter's tangle troubles. 🙂 Let her know that it will get easier as she gets older and gets used to how her hair works and the best ways to tackle it!
I've tried everything, and here's the method that works best for me:
1. Right before a shower, use a brush to detangle. (Note: A shower is always better than a bath for tangly hair, because the water flows down over the natural curve of the hair, instead of swishing it all around like a bath or under the bath faucet.)
2. Shampoo and condition as usual - rinse.
3. Squeeze hair gently with a towel to remove excess water, but DON'T towel-dry too much, and don't rub the head with the towel. Rubbing = more tangles!
4. Spray on your detangler of choice. 🙂
5. Comb through with a medium-tooth comb (not a brush), starting at the ends and moving up towards the scalp.
6. After hair is combed through, you can towel-dry more thoroughly and comb again.
7. For dry hair, brush as usual and use a little detangler if needed.
Vicky @ Mess For Less
I try to braid it during the day but they won't sleep with braids. Too bad, it makes pretty waves too.
Vicky @ Mess For Less
Great tip Amy! Love the idea of making it last even longer and really makes the price seem not so steep.
Vicky @ Mess For Less
It's a great brush. We even bought the hair bean detangler brush (forgot to include that above) and it didn't work on my kids. Goody brush rules!
Vicky @ Mess For Less
These are great tips. I towel dry a lot and didn't realize I was making things worse. Makes sense. Thanks for the great comment!
Anonymous
That Goody's Ouchless Brush is awesome!!! I have thick curly hair that almost reaches my waist. I teach 11 Zumba classes a week and my hair gets crazy tangled during my classes. (I fling my hair a lot!)
Your brushing technique is the same that my Mom taught me 40 years ago.
Anonymous
Ooops, I almost forgot! Another reason I LOVE that brush is because the flexible bristles don't break the hair like a stiff comb. I see a lot of wavey haired women with comb damage! (Combs create micro-breaks where as flexible bristles may stretch wet hair a bit, but the moisture will help the cuticle heal)
And amen for telling women not to rub their hair dry! Blotting is just as effective, doesn't tangle the hair AND doesn't cause damage that leads to FRIZZ!!!!
Thanks for your post!!! (Your girls have beautiful hair, thanks for being such
Creatively Content
This is such a helpful post!!! Thank you.
Tammy @ housing a forest
I love it! We are always fighting tangles in our house too. Thanks for the tip, now if we could just keep track of the brush:)
Vicky @ Mess For Less
Thanks so much for your sweet comments. Just gave my daughter's a bath and blotted rather than rubbed their hair dry.
Vicky @ Mess For Less
So glad you liked it! Thanks for dropping in!
Vicky @ Mess For Less
Tammy, can't help you there! 🙂
Grace
Another tip: Have the kids sleep on a satin or silk pillow case. My eldest daughter has fine curly and my baby girl has fine wavy hair. I have them both on a satin pillow case (baby sleeps on it without a pillow) and it has made a big difference in the number of tangles.
Chrissy @ The Outlaw Mom Blog
Great tips 🙂 I wish my daughter had these issues...she just turned four and still has barely any hair - not even enough for a bob!
The Kirby Family
Try a boar bristle brush. They have some at Target that are pretty reasonable. My oldest has lots of fine hair and it was looking sort of frizzy and was hard to comb through. My stylist uses the same brush on her daughter who has thick wavy hair. We are Original Sprout users...have been using the shampoo and leave-in since my oldest was about 1.
Anonymous
Heading out to buy that brush and either a spray bottle to make my own or maybe just go straight for the Miracle product. Thank you! I was getting ready to cut my daughter's beautifully long hair but I think this may just be the better solution.
And while I'm at the store, I'm grabbing a Satin pillowcase per Grace's recommendation!
K Coake
Great tips! We have the fine hair here in our house and it is just as you say. Brush it, move and it is tangled again. I will have to try that product. I have a new link party I would love for you to share this at: http://www.realcoake.blogspot.com/2013/02/real-family-fun-1.html
Thanks,
KC
Brenda
Thanks for sharing! My youngest daughter has fine and wavy hair and I agree it tangles SO MUCH and SO EASILY!! It's crazy! After conditioner & detangling spray I will take my time trying to be as gentle as possible getting the tangles out, but there are still many "ouch!"s and even a few lit'l tears involved in this routine. 🙁 This post was helpful! 😉 From one mama to another, THANK YOU!! <3
Brenda
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Mel
Thank you for this! My oldest has fine wavy hair, and is also tender-headed. She likes it long, but brushing it drives me crazy.
Miss Courtney
Great post. I've got fine and wavy hair and so does my son. A couple of months ago, I cut his hair myself to get rid of the tangles. My hair still tangles all the time. We've been using Redkin Anti-snap (leave-in) on wet hair and the Suave detangler on dry hair. I only brush his hair when it's wet with a comb. When it's dry (and sprayed) I use a boar bristle brush, so it will lie flat. I'm going to re-read your post right now for MY benefit.
Anonymous
I have extremely tangly, thick, wavy hair. You should try the tangle teaser hair brush. I got it on amazon for 10 bucks. I thought it would be a gimmick but it really does work on wet or dry hair. It makes my hair feel silky and it only takes me a few seconds to brush my hair now!
Rose
What a great resource for parents! I had long hair for years and years as a child. It took a long time to find products that worked for me. I'm glad that you addresses proper brushes in this post because that is such an important component. Personally I like Paul Mitchell's Detangler Conditioner better than any other conditioner or detangler I've ever tried. It's a little pricy, but a big bottle will last you a long time.
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Thanks for these great ideas! My oldest has fine, straight hair, and tons of tangles! Pinning!
Laurel
Is it ok I read this for my hair?? Thank you!
Shauna {The Best Blog Recipes}
Saw your link over at Six Sisters and thought I'd check it out 🙂 What a great idea for hair detangler!
I'd love for you to link up a few things at my weekend link party that is going on right now @The Weekend re-Treat!
Hope to see you there!
Scary @ Shaffer Sisters
Thank you for this post. My little one is always getting her hair in knots. And this will be able to help me get the knots out for cheap.
If I have luck like my mom I might end up with a thick and straight, thin and wavy, and Super Thick and Super Curly.
Crystelle Boutique
Fine hair at our house too... Yep, it gets super tangly....!
Thanks so much for your tips. I will try making some of my own entangler, and put Zerran Equalizer on my shopping list.
Thanks much for all your tips. Your girls look adorable. Looks like they cooperate very well with the pictures!
hugs x
Crystelle
4 You With Love
What a great idea. It's amazing how must tangles are caused by dried out hair...this spray conditioning idea is something I will definitely be trying
Kathryn
Thanks for this post. I am an adult who never had long hair but have now grown it to waist length and it is in the fine & wavy category and some tangles have been so bad I have even cut a few out and thought about cutting my hair short again, but I will give the product you suggested a try:)I
Jana from HowToRunAHomeDaycare
My daughter's hair is fine and wavy and we argue on a daily basis about brushing, pulling it back into braids (to avoid tangles) and cutting it shorter. Thanks so much for the tips. I think it's time to try some products, I'd love to have stress free combing sessions like you do with your girls.
Diana - FreeStyleMama
I've heard that Suave Coconut keeps lice away...so it's serving double duty!!
Michelle Johnnie
Great post! I need to try some of your methods on my daughter's hair. This was the most viewed post at somedaycrafts.blogspot.com last week. I am featuring it today!
Rachel - Adventures of a DIY Mom
Great post! I'm going to try your homemade detangler. Pinned!
eubankseutopia
Great idea! My daughter has VERY tangly hair. I usually put a dime size blob of Suave coconut conditioner (same one you have pictured) in my hand and spread it evenly over her hair when it's wet, and that works great. Spray bottle is a nice idea though, probably makes for better and more even coverage.
~jeannine
Mandy Beyeler
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Anonymous
I will have to try the detangler Stella hair gets knots that look like Scottish dreds
Laivine
I have long hair, and my mother always braided or made me braid it before bed- way less tangles!!
Mackenzie
This is awesome! Although I don't have girls, I babysat a ton and also had tons of tangles myself! Such a great idea Vicky! You are a Featured Favorite this week on Saturday Show & Tell on Cheerios and Lattes! Thanks for sharing with us last week, we can't wait to see what you've been up to this week! Have a great weekend!
Mackenzie 🙂
Jemma carnie-lincoln
Great ideas! over here in the uk we have brushes called Tangle Teezers and they are AMAZING! i even use one now. I am off to make my own detangler spray for tonight's battle of the spider knots!!!!
http://tangleteezer.com/
linda
I also ALWAYS braid my daughter's hair before she goes to bed on either one or 2 braids. This helps immensely the next morning.
mlissa689
This sounds great and I'm gonna try it. But what about the frizziness that all that brushing causes? My daughters hair is thick n wavy and no matter what I do it always has frizzy fly aways... ugh
Luhra
Hi, I thought I'd share a discovery with you. I have shoulder length, thick, straight hair and it can also get very tangled. I recently, as in last week, found a solution that is working wonderfully for me and costs next to nothing. It is a mixture of baking soda and water for shampoo and vinegar and water for conditioner. I'm not an all natural person, I used bottled chemicals and eat junk food but this idea intrigued me and since I had the items in the house I figured, why not? I got it all from http://frugalgirlglamour.blogspot.com/2012/10/going-no-poo.html My hair is much less tangled when I get out of the shower and it seems to already be less frizzy and more shiny. Good luck to you and your girls
Sarah Draheim
Where can I get the spray?
Vicky @ Mess For Less
There is a link in the post and on the bottom Amazon carousel for Original Sprout Detangler.
Maya A
I have very thick/heavy hair and it is a nightmare to work with when wet. I use Shielo's Leave In Protectant which is the best detangler and leave in conditioner I have ever used. It makes it easy to comb through my hair when wet and leaves my hair silky after drying. Other leave in conditioners I have used have required a generous amount to work and then leave my hair flaky. The Shielo Leave In is light, so it doesn't weigh down your hair and you don't have to worry about having to use so much that it dries on your hair and flakes off. It is also a great heat protectant to use before straightening your hair.
Vicky @ Mess For Less
Great tips Maya!
Kristy
I'm missing something...where is the recipe/info on the homemade detangler in this article? Also which is the best for fine and wavy? I've read this article several times and I don't see this info.
Thank you so much! From a mom at her wits end with tangles and frizzy flyaways! 🙂
Vicky
Fixed, thanks for pointing that out!
Kristy
Thank you so much for responding! Also glad to help and to know that I'm not losing my mind (totally)!
Brooke
Thanks for the tips! In addition, I always recommend a satin or sateen type pillow case! These can be pricey but with a trip to the clearance section of your local fabric store and basic straight-line sewing skills, you can have multiple soft cases that soften hair overnight. ?
Vicky
What a great idea, Brooklyn! Thank you!
Cheryl
I started growing my hair out a few years back from a short haircut, just above my shoulders and now it reaches to my elbows. One thing my husband told me was never to brush my hair when it is wet. I now use a wide tooth comb and I start from the ends and work my way up to the roots. I spray my roots with an Argan oil mix after each time I wash. I use a shampoo that is free of Euphrates and parabans as they strip your natural oils, leaving hair dry. I rarely use a brush anymore, most of the time I just use a wide tooth comb, there really isn't any reason to use a brush at all. Another thing that makes a bid difference is regular trims. I have my husband trim my ends to remove the splits and keep my hemline neat every six to eight week, quarter inch or less. He sections it, and trims the tips on each successive layer so the layers underneath get the splits removed too, not just the top layer with a straight across the back trim. It makes the comb glide through my hair easier. At night I braid my hair and I have my husband braid my hair before work as it keeps it out of my face and I don't need to fuss with it. I carry a wide tooth comb in my purse not a brush. My niece who has very fine hair, was at the pool with us and she wrapped a towel around her head after she got out. Later it took a good amount of conditioner and using a wide tooth comb starting at the ends to get it untangled.
M
We have had good luck with using a wet to dry detangle brush in the shower to help with rinsing out the conditioner. She just keeps brushing until the conditioner is all rinsed and then comes out with tangle free hair. I'm interested in trying the detangler you mentioned though... Thanks!
Tanglefree
You can use one of the oldest remedies for tangles. Massage your scalp and hair with coconut oil. Detangle with your fingers. Wash 30 mins later. Do this once a week. A 1$ bottle lasts around 6 months. You won't need conditioner when you do this. This is the secret behind Indian women's tresses.
Frustrated mom
Hate this brush! My daughters hair is SO tangled every single day that when I use it it literally just skips over the knots! Sure the top layer looks great but try to rin your fingers through my daughters hair and you quickly realize its still a nasty snarled mess! I always end up having to go grab my hair brush and still regardless of the sheer amount of any type of detangler im having to rip her hair out to brush it. I'm one hair brushing away from chopping it all off.
Vicky
Sorry to hear it hasn't worked for you. I know that all hair is different and maybe the hair that my kids have responds better to the brush. I know how frustrating tangles can be. Good luck.
Julie
My GRANDAUGHTER is not mixed ,but has ethnic hair ! It's kinky curly ,huge big balls of knots ! I need help to somehow get them out! I've tried everything ! Her scalp is very sensitive ! Just want her to feel as beautiful as she is to Me!
Rebekah
Dear white people:
Please...PLEASE stop calling straight hair "curly." I don't think you truly understand the definition of curly, but that is nowhere even close to resembling any kind of curl. That is BARELY wavy. When I google things regarding "curly hair," I expect to see ACTUAL curly hair...not this.
Hanna
Tangles are a pain, My hair is more prone to getting tangles which I hate so I buy some extra stuff to help with it.
Cecilia
The only different thing I do from you is the size of the comb. My hair is thick, wavy and long. It would be curly if it was shorter. I use the large Conair detangle comb...has a hook on end to hang it. Even dry, I find it best to still use the comb so I don't tear or rip my hair out due to tangles. I also tend to braid my hair at night. I started learning how to manage my hair at around age 5 or 6 from my aunt who has the fine, wavy and long hair to her butt. Thirty years later and she still does.
Marisa Irish
Thats the best way to do it because it starts undoing the knots and causes less pain
shandi
sadly they discontinued the goodie ouchless brush of old... the new one is a poisonous look alike it seems (at least based on reviews and pictures as I haven't personally tried it) and the only old ones available are from 50 to 100$ on amazon or ebay as new old stock. do you have a best second or has your old one stood up good enough to not need a new one? I know this is an older blog but still hopeful of a reply 🙂
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This is a really great content, I can see how detailed you have gone through and explained about hair tangles plus recipe for hair detangler. I love this article, thanks for producing such great contents. I love your posts always.